Blogs Are Stupid

Doesn't anyone believe in Dear Diary anymore? What happened to the joy of putting actual pen to paper? And why does every ordinary Jane and John think they can write well enough to burden the world with their scribblings? It’s a mystery that badly needs solving. My first entry contains my thoughts about blogging and will set your expectations. The rest will probably be stream of consciousness garbage, much like you’ll find on any other blog. Perhaps we will both come away enlightened.

Friday, November 14, 2008

Meh.

I'm feeling very apathetic. I don't feel like blogging. Reading or writing. My stats are dropping, my readers are wandering away...and I can't seem to make myself care.

I don't know if this malaise is a symptom of a larger problem or if it's just blogging burnout.

But I seem to be feeling apathetic about everything lately.

Maybe it's the weather. But again, I don't know if it's just winter blahs or something more serious like S.A.D. I tend to pooh-pooh those kinds of things. I often think that we've disordered ourselves to death these days.

And yet, as the Mother of children who suffer from a disability that is still met with skepticism and sometimes even overt hostility, (the last comment on this post is a perfect example.) I have to acknowledge that sometimes, there are deeper issues at play when one feels "sad" or "blue" or "melancholy".

Who knows.

I need something... but I don't know what. A challenge, maybe. There has been a decided lack of that in my life of late.

Anyway, I just wanted to let you know why I have been posting so sporadically lately, and why my content has been so stunningly mediocre and uninspired.

I'm wondering...and I've said it before...if blogging has just run it's course for me.

Maybe the satisfaction that it has brought me is a finite thing.

Anybody else experiencing the blogging blues, lately? What's the cure? Is there one?

SIGH.

18 Comments:

  • At 9:32 AM, Blogger Sharon said…

    I am still enjoying your posts even though I rarely comment. You know, being the parent of two boys, with learning challenges, who are the ages of your two boys, in these challenging times, is enough to make anyone feel apathetic especially when faced with hostile people, with ignorant attitudes, such as your anonymous blogger on your AVID post. She shares the same narrow minded attitude as a few teachers and parents that I had the pleasure of dealing with in Middle and High School, with one of my sons. Luckily not all of us in education are as ill informed.
    Allow yourself some down time, just don't stop blogging. Many of us enjoy reading your blog. Your posts don't seem uninspired to me. Hang in there and be kind to yourself. You deserve a little pampering with all you do for others. Sharon

     
  • At 10:06 AM, Blogger Boliath said…

    Perhaps you're grieving? It's not that long ago that your mind was filled with what ifs and maybe babies, perhaps you need to give yourself some time to heal?

    Sorry if this is assvice, just from personal experience I carried on as normal after my miscarriage only to implode a few months later, I had to let it take me over for a while in order to move on. Just a thought.

    I feel the same way at the moment, just blah, all I want to do is curl up in bed and sleep all day alone with nobody wanting anything from me, just for one day.

     
  • At 10:07 AM, Blogger the only daughter said…

    I haven't been able to focus much these days, feeling un-inspired.

    Factors aplenty.

    I inted to take Sharon's advice...be kind to yourself.

    Sounds good. Join me, won't you?

    Peace.

     
  • At 10:07 AM, Blogger the only daughter said…

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  • At 10:32 AM, Blogger Natalie said…

    I have been totally apathetic about my blogging lately as well. I just haven't felt the need to write anything down. It comes and goes and so it goes.

    As someone whose sister has SAD I say just invest in a full spectrum light and sit in front of it for an hour or so. My mother, who doesn't have it as severely as my sister, says the light helps her too.

     
  • At 10:45 AM, Blogger Traceytreasure said…

    Not sure what to tell you but I have been working a lot lately. I'm still reading but I don't always have time to comment. I've only been blogging since January and I've almost thrown in the towel several times. Major Bedhead told me that blogging shouldn't feel like a job. It should be fun. Something that you WANT TO DO. I don't remember her exact words but they got me through a rough patch. Readership and people commenting goes in waves. You can't take it personally. Hope you feel better soon!

    Hugs!!

     
  • At 10:57 AM, Blogger Baroness von Bloggenschtern said…

    I think it's high time you and I went for coffee and a Vitamin D chaser. We have much to discuss.

    I could have written this post myself. It's exactly how I have been feeling. Instead, I pull capricious garbage out of my bag of tricks, and feel like a blog whore. Next up I'll have a webcam on my pug, just to get the numbers. Oh, the tears of a clown, non?

    One of my favorite activities is mulling - maybe we need to sit with this ennui for a while and see if it opens up to tell us where we need to go from here.

     
  • At 12:26 PM, Blogger Avalon said…

    Feeling exactly the same around here. Maybe we can make suggestions for topics to each other, and see what we can create from someone else's ideas?

    Ask questions? All post our differing views on one particular subject?

    After that, I'm out of ideas.

     
  • At 3:51 PM, Blogger Becca said…

    Stats be danmed. Who cares about other people's Stupid Remarks? (Ok, we all love comments.)

    Someone said it above, blogging should be fun. If you don't feel like doing it one day or any day, so what? That is the beauty of a blog. It's all yours. One of the few places in the univers any of us has total controle. Blogging shouldn't feel like homework that's due. It should feel like your safe place to share... when you want and as much as you want.

    Sure there is the community aspect of it all. But, the friends you've made in Blogtown won't just vanish if you post sparatically. Sure, maybe they'll only click-over once a month instead of once or twice a week (or every day!). But, they won't dissapear. And when you feel like posting more they'll visit more... It works out.

    Personally, I go in big cycles with my blog. I like to give myself permission to be an inconstant blogger. I do it for fun after all. It's not a chore.

     
  • At 4:07 PM, OpenID wheelsonthebus said…

    i had missed that post because i had a baby the day before. but maybe i am just making excuses for my bad behavior.

    what a moron!

     
  • At 5:08 PM, Blogger sltbee69 said…

    I would be sad if you stopped blogging. I may not comment much but I am a regular reader. My own blog has suffered miserably - I never was really into in the first place. I just made one so I wouldn't look like a stalker to my favorite bloggers. Any hoo - I've been feeling the same way. I'm not someone who usually is affected by depression, seasonal disorders, whatever you want to call it. But this time, I am blaming my funk on the changing weather, daylight savings, and financial woes. All that to say that I hope you keep blogging. ((HUGS))

     
  • At 7:18 PM, Anonymous OmegaMom said…

    I will second everything Becca said. Your blog; you write when you want, don't make it into a chore. If you want to post fluff, that's cool; if you want to post something substantive, that's cool, too.

     
  • At 10:41 PM, Blogger Amy Nathan said…

    I had to stop the personal blogging stuff because it was just too much on a regular basis. Now I blog about writing, and a couple times per month I blog on a group blog about life or kids or something else. You have a lot to offer if you want to continue. Your fabulous and friendly beauty tips, your stories etc. Maybe some posts that don't dig out your soul would make you less dread it. I'm not saying those aren't the best, but they're exhausting, no?

    If it has run its course, so be it. Take a hiatus, change the focus.

    Either way, any way, I'll be watching and reading.

     
  • At 2:28 AM, Blogger flutter said…

    write for yourself. Write all of the things you would write if no one was reading. Disable sitemeter, turn off comments, if you have to. Get in touch with your inner artist, the one that has your voice.

    Just write for the joy of writing.

     
  • At 8:58 PM, Blogger margalit said…

    FIrst thing, disable anonymous comments. Then our best buddy Anonymous can't come and slam you with her delightful brand of asshatism. We've all had her drop by, but in my case, once I eliminated anon comments, my commenting because much more pleasant.

    Second, you know I read everything you write and that I sing your praises to the sky all the time. I think you're probably the most talented and underappreciated blogger out there.

    But we're all getting tired. I think this time of year is a killer. I know it is for me. Plus as our kids get older their problems get harder and harder to handle and we expend so much more energy than when they were little. So you're tired, you're a bit down in the dumps, and you're feeling the economic pinch. I'm right beside you.

    Take a break. Sleep for a week. Come back refreshed. It's OK. We'll still love you, and you'll remain in our readers ready to be highlighted when you're back!

     
  • At 7:27 PM, Blogger womaninawindow said…

    I'm wondering why it is that Anonymous is always such a shithead. Is this one person. Is this actually someone's name?

    Hang in there. Get inspired. I've been there. I've turned to other things to get validation. It's always a balancing game for me.

     
  • At 9:41 PM, Blogger IIDLYYCKMA said…

    I have to ask -- do you write for the stats? Or do you write for the simple joy of writing.

    If you write for the stats and the people who come read, you will burn yourself out. I used to write for a very very large following, the pressure was horrible. I burned out after about three years. I was an attention whore in its finest.

    I shut down and stopped writing for a long time -- needed to breathe. I then resumed, and began writing again, under a different name, and don't keep track of the stats, and my creative juices continue to flow:)

     
  • At 10:52 PM, Blogger Major Bedhead said…

    "November is the worst month in the year" said Meg miserably, looking out the window.

    "That's why I was born in November," said Jo.


    Actually, pretty much all of winter sucks. And if you're sick of writing, you're sick of writing. You shouldn't be doing it for us, you should be doing it for you and if it's no fun for you, then stop. Take a break or stop altogether. It's your blog and while I will miss reading you, I totally get it. I think most of us do, judging by the comments.

     

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